The awkward thing about war is that in one part of the world people are waging gun-wars in the middle of the market and in another part of the world people are at work, and picking up their kids from school, and going to the grocery and life for them is normal.
While I’m watching the sky darken with the black smoke of near-by bombs and thinking about who is being killed just miles away, my friends back in Jordan and in the States are living life and not skipping a beat.
Not that that’s a bad thing that everyone else is going on with life. I’m glad that war does not touch most of the people I know. At the same time, it’s an odd feeling. It’s like when a loved one passes away and you’re the one grieving while everyone else seems unaffected. You wonder how they could act like everything’s OK when, to you, it is the very opposite of OK. Maybe, for a time, friends grieve with you but then eventually you are left to mourn alone and watch everyone around you, envious of how un-tormented they seem.
I am in Khartoum, Sudan now. Those of you who tune in to the “world news” know that we’ve had a bit of trouble this past weekend. Surely you all know that Sudan has long been a war-torn country. This weekend the war came to the capitol, Khartoum. The rebels, who have been fighting against the government, brought their guns and their bombs and their anger to our doorsteps.
On Saturday I was with the girl I’m staying with paying the electricity bill, stocking up on more coffee, etc. The shopkeeper whose store we were in suddenly said-
‘Madam! You have to leave. You have to go home now!!’
A look of sheer panic had come over his face and he hurried us out the door shouting out behind us- ‘go home quickly!’
The government had imposed a citywide curfew and we all rushed home. My roommate and I gathered together important papers and a few clothes, and headed to our team-leader’s home so that we would all be together. That night we listened to the low thud of the bombs going off and watched the sky blacken with dark smoke of burning cars and rubble just miles away. The next morning we woke to reports of many casualties on all sides- rebels, government army, and civilians. Today-more street battles and riots. One moment is calm and the next huge helicopters are flying low and I can’t help wondering about all the mothers who have lost sons this weekend.
War. It is very ugly and if you think it’s black and white… think again. It rarely, if ever, is.
When I was 6 a war broke out in the country that my family and I were living in and has lasted until today. I have many, many good memories from my life in that country and from my childhood. I would never want my life to be different than it has been. It’s all been a gift- the good and the bad. Suffering and hardship is a gift, if you choose to see it that way. At the same time, that war is something that I will always, always carry with me. Some days it is awkward to know how to live with that. There are days when I recall coming face to face with the wrong end of a disgruntled soldier’s machine gun or running from angry riots or remember the pungent stench of tear gas. On those days I look around at everyone going on like life is normal. Within me is war and outside...everything is calm.
I realize this is not the MOST uplifting post. But this is where I am today. Sudan, as I said before, has been my dream come true. One of my favorite things to say is this: dreams aren’t perfect; they come true, not free. Being in Sudan these past three weeks and living in Northern Africa and the Middle East both during my childhood and these past two years has been my dream come true and whatever it requires of me I willingly give.
Signing off for now.
Love, from here……